The Toughest Job

{Before reading this blog, read the last one "No means No" because this is a continuation of the that one. }
    I read somewhere it is hard being a woman. You must think like a man, act like a lady- well mannered , look like a young girl- naive and beautiful and work like a horse - hardworking and relentless. On the other hand nobody expects anything out of a man other than being himself. Well according to science it's just the difference of the genotypes XY for males and XX for females, just a difference of one chromosome. But NO, there's a huge difference. This blog is to do a comparison between the freehand that the men are given whilst the women are judged for the same.
    The culture of our country is the oldest one and the traditions are well known. Also people willingly worship the goddesses and on the other hand treat the women as indifferent. Yes, we live in a patriarchal society, where the man of the house is the most important person even if the woman is the bread winner of the house. Today the condition of the women is better in the cities because they are financially independent and economically sound but then there are incidents that shock you to the spine like the one in Bangalore last week or the one in Delhi some years ago.
   There's a friend of mine who was gracious enough to share her story. She has four sisters, she being the elder one now has to look after all of them. She is the sole bread winner of the house. But how did this happen, because of her father's wish to have a baby boy. This is also one of the biggest problem of our country. People are obsessed with having a boy because he'll carry their legacy, their heredity forward. Why can't a girl ? Because of this the female infanticide was on a rise in the country. Even though this practice is outlawed , 3-6 lakh female fetuses are aborted each year according to a 2011 report. Women are forced to marry at a certain age and within the caste only and in case of intercaste run off marriages honor killings take place. Also women are not allowed to put forth their opinion and the ridiculous question about the clothes is always there.
    But the biggest difference that I've noticed is the disparity in education. I know a family that sends the boy of the house to an English school while the poor daughter goes to a Marathi school. It's very clear on the onset that the reason is that girls are a financial liability. Girls are anyways going to go to her husband's home and if she's educated the parents have to find  suitable in-laws and have to pay hefty dowry. The discrimination is not just in rural or urban India or the literate or illiterate India, it's everywhere.
    I've been brought up by women- my mother, grandmothers, aunts, who are free of their will, who husbands and families are helpful or so might I think. But if you look beyond your own house you'll see the vehement discrimination disguised in some form or the another. Think ! When we say or write our name who's name we use our father's or mother's. So, being a mother also doesn't fetch that credit.
Isn't that the toughest job???